I am going to start this out, since nobody else has stepped forward to post.

I remember being younger and newly married. At that time (1997) I was in the mentality that I must please the wife to get far in life.

I had been in a relationship before I met my then wife, where we both explored a lot. I had often thought about doing more exploring with my wife, but felt she would not only reject the ideas, but then lock me into a lifelong category of being "the pervert".

Hindsight, I should have taken more control of that situation.

Today, I am mostly upfront with my girls, and they seem to not only accept, but they seem excited. I wish I would have known this 25 years ago.

Although there are still things that I find myself hesitating to bring up. The fear is that they will again classify my idea as being too taboo or that I am just a pervert.

This is a very strong emotion, nobody wants to feel like the outcast or "pervert". I feel there needs to be more work done to remove that "pervert" status from being an outcast in modern cultures.