My experience is that my way with my wife is completely different than most people think and has nothing to do with cuckold / wife sharing porn. Others would see it that way with us.
For us, this has nothing to do with being submissive and dominating.
In most families, being naked is an absolute taboo.
Talking about sex is also taboo.
For me, that lays the foundation for why society is the way it is. Everyone does "it" (sort of) but nobody talks about it because you can't even talk about sex with your loved ones. How is reasonable sex...