Strength of trust
I have seen this taboo out on the porn sites many times. When I first saw it, the topic seemed absurd.
Over time I listened to females and found that many women have fantasies about a "gangbang" where they are the only female surrounded by many attractive men.
While that doesn't fit the description of a cuckhold, it did start me down the mental path of rationalizing letting my woman be used by other men.
My initial hesitations are on STD's when this thought comes up. I don't think I am alone in this, but as a man, the protection factor comes in. Also the fear of the other guy getting out of control during sex, starts some worry. But it is possible to search and find suitable men for such a situation.
The last part is feeling confidence in myself about situation that any remaining fears are not warranted. This includes jealousy, loss of control, fear of events after the cuckhold scenario, etc.
This doesn't seem as hard as it might. Getting an agreement with my woman that this is not to continue outside of my knowledge will help in many ways.
The mental state to me, that would work during a cuckhold, is seeing my woman be craved and desired by other men. I don't think this is a hard feeling to achieve. It comes pretty naturally.
Seeing my woman helpless with another man, can be a way of simulation of an non-typical event. For example of the perception of having one's own professional porn star. Seeing her being taken can simulate this.
Another part of cuckhold is the male(me) giving up dominance over my woman (wife). This is a little harder for me, as I am still not feeling being submissive is my preference, but I can understand another persons desire to play both submissive and dominant roles and change them.
This is an experience that sounds like it needs more input from females, and those who have experienced it.
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