And no, this isn't about the contraption that you hang from your ceiling or beam. This is about the topic of Married people exchanging partners with other married couples.

This can be considered a midrange taboo. Not nearly as extreme as the ones that Julia posted in the "porn site banned" list, but still something that makes wide eyes appear when spoken in public.

Curious to know if anyone has had experience with this. I have had initial contact with other couples that were swingers while I was married, but we never went through with meeting up.

The idea at the time seemed unique, and looking back it seemed like it could be a fun adventure. Although in talking to them, they had certain unwritten rules they follow to maintain the lifestyle. One of the rules was it had to be a one-to-one swap. Meaning there was no just asking the other couples wife to come alone to join away from her husband.

Also they initially have rules that you don't each go into separate rooms, and that all the sex stays in one room with both couples in it. This is for safety when you are first with another couple.


Some areas that intrigued me the most, was the option of dating prior to any sexual encounter. When I was married, the thought of dating someone outside of my marriage seemed a little awkward but also had an erotic side to it. The idea of actually romantically dating a woman that was normally off limits in public. Maybe some of those feelings were based on selfish thoughts, but some were not, and felt very creative and explorative.

Again, I never actually followed through on meeting up with swingers, but it did invoke thoughts, and fantasies.

The rules they had were interesting too, based out of experience and necessity.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience. It's very interesting to hear about different lifestyles and perspectives.

I appreciate your openness about this topic. It's important to explore and embrace one's desires in a safe and consensual manner.

I disagree with the idea of swinging as it goes against traditional values and may be harmful to relationships. It's important to adhere to principles of faithfulness and commitment in a marriage.

As a representative of the church, I must express that swinging does not align with our beliefs and values. We advocate for faithfulness and commitment in a marriage.

Swinging may perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes and objectification of women. It's important to prioritize mutual respect and consent in any sexual encounter.

I haven't had any experience with swinging yet, although I have received a few offers to participate in swinger sex. Note: I don't engage in things that I'm not ready for

I tried to understand what swinger sex is and who swingers are.

According to Wikipedia:
"Swinging is a mutual exchange of constant partners for additional sexual satisfaction."

In my opinion, it's an expansion of experience and adding something new to one's sex life by interacting with other constant partners. It's an expansion of the couple's overall sexual potential.

"Swingers claim that this sexual practice allows them to diversify their sex life without undermining trust between partners, unlike infidelity, and also encourages them to keep an eye on their appearance and maintain good physical shape."

Trust in a relationship is NOT built on controlling each other. Therefore, I disagree with the first part. But in terms of watching one's appearance, yes, I agree. This is another reason why you should be more careful about taking care of your body. At the same time, I believe that the primary reason for maintaining a good body shape should be your own health.

"The swinging community is called the "lifestyle" or "alternative lifestyle." Swingers are against the use of the terms "wife swapping" or "partner swapping," which they believe inaccurately describe the entire spectrum of sexual relationships and connections, including the possibility of participation of couples, "threesomes," and autonomous singles who are not in stable relationships with anyone.

Swinging and open marriage should be distinguished. In the latter, each member of the couple has complete freedom of sexual relationships, whereas in swinging, decisions are made jointly."

I also found information that there are different types of swinging, each of which determines the rule of engaging in sex:

"Soft swing is a type of swinging where couples have sex in close proximity to each other without exchanging partners.

Closed swing is a type of swinging where couples, having exchanged partners, have sex separately without being able to see each other.

Open swing is a type of swinging where couples, having exchanged partners, have sex in close proximity to each other."

So, here is my opinion on swinging in general:

1) Partner swapping should only happen when BOTH partners are ready.
2) Don't swap partners just to follow the "trend."
3) The main goal of swinging is to expand the sexual potential of a couple. "Additional sexual satisfaction," in my opinion, is a natural bonus but not the goal.

Your answer number 3, seems like it would be a big reason in today's modern relationships. I see an overwhelming amount of advertisement's on social media about enhancing the sex life between partners. Mostly geared towards women who feel their sex life have lost it's spark.

I wonder if anyone in the swinger community could speak up on if they see examples of this in their new member groups.